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this is nice, isn’t it?

November 8, 2015

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I came home from running errands in the rain yesterday, my umbrella abused to within an inch of its cheap life, its ribs cracked wide open and joints snapped by November’s wrath, droplets dripping from my grocery bags, and when I walked up the stairs, I saw that my husband had lit the first fire of the season. Is there anything better than coming home to a fire when it’s pissing it with rain outside? Billie Holiday was playing on the turntable and I turned the lights down low and then sat on the couch with Wren, both of us completely transfixed by the flames, while Joe marinated ribs for dinner, and I just looked over at him and said, “This is nice, isn’t it?”

A perfectly ordinary moment. Nothing exceptional, no bells, no whistles, no thrills, no trimmings. Just us. Our little family of three at home, warm, out of the rain, doing ordinary things.

We really don’t say it enough do we? This is nice, isn’t it?

Sure, I could focus on the fact that my daughter shit herself at 2:30am and she then somehow managed to pee all over the bed in that split second between my husband removing the dirty nappy and putting a clean one on. And how there is a pile of laundry the size of Everest in the corner of our bedroom and a knot the size of Jupiter in my back, and since giving birth, I’ve shed more hair than a Pomeranian in July. But there are far nicer things to focus on: Sunday morning pancakes, coffee in the park, a Skype date with my sister, those ribs smoking in the smoker, clean sheets, popcorn.

So for the next month, my goal is to say, “This is nice, isn’t it? to myself or anyone else willing to listen, out loud, at least once a day. Right down to this very moment, this quiet before Wren wakes, this opportunity to be creative, even if only for 10 minutes.

“For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don’t enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are you’re not going to be very happy. If someone bases his [or her] happiness on major events like a great job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn’t going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.”– Andy Rooney

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  1. November 8, 2015 5:42 pm

    Hello Jeanine,
    and wow what a lovely, inspiring, fun blog you have here!
    I came here through mysticvixen and glad I did πŸ™‚
    Firstly, I got the idea of a post a day in November from you and Elizabeth and I’m loving it. I love writing mine and I love reading yours.

    I loved the videos you’ve made, too. I’ve been thinking of doing one of Xanthe’s courses. They are so lovely to watch and I imagine the memories they store are safely kept this way.

    And last but not least – today’s post is delicious and so in tune with what I’m trying to practise daily πŸ™‚

    Best from the Alps!

  2. November 8, 2015 8:33 pm

    That’s an important reminder – thank you for sharing! I might just try to do the same this month, as it seems so easy to forget the niceness of ordinary things during the darkest time of the year.

    Hope your November is a very happy one! πŸ™‚

  3. November 8, 2015 9:44 pm

    Well…. this is rather nice. xxx

  4. November 8, 2015 9:54 pm

    oh yes! You must know our beloved Kurt said the same thing https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/04/17/if-this-isnt-nice-what-is-kurt-vonnegut-commencement/ SO SO SO true and what it is ALL about, baby πŸ™‚

  5. November 8, 2015 11:47 pm

    Such a lovely momwpent in time. You recognizes it and spoke of it. Your going to have a good month.

  6. Alison permalink
    November 9, 2015 12:14 am

    It always was and always will be about the little things.

  7. November 9, 2015 7:48 am

    Oh yes, I’m all about the simple things in life.

  8. November 9, 2015 9:42 am

    Hi Jeanine,
    I’ve tried posting a comment here, but somehow the web’s been sulking this morning 😦
    Anyway, try again.
    Love your blog! Found you through mysticvixen and so glad I did!
    I loved the videos (been thinking of doing Xanthe’s course, too) and this very post here is definitely my cuppa πŸ™‚

    Hopefully this message finds its way to you.

    Best front he Alps!

  9. Kelly permalink
    November 9, 2015 6:30 pm

    YES! THIS! ❀

  10. November 15, 2015 4:31 am

    This came to me this week as well. I wonder if it was the same day you posted? I think it was a bit later, actually. I made myself a new playlist for my birthday, and I added Michael Franti’s “All I want is You.” One of the lines in that song is: “Wise men count their blessings, fools count their problems.” I realized that I have been counting problems for a while. I have lost the joy in an ordinary day. So, right then, I changed back to noticing the good things. And being grateful. This is nice, isn’t it? I love when the universe speaks.

  11. November 25, 2015 3:40 am

    What a wonderful post to take my Wonderings & Wanderings virginity! Seriously though, I loved this post and concur 100%. Sure, the big moments can be cool, but I think most of life’s best bits are in the small moments. I’ve been noticing the details of those quiet moments more and more lately (does it come with age?? I don’t know) and I honestly think it helps to reshape your perspective on life – on everything! You’ve won me over with just one post, Jeanine!

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