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year 2

December 28, 2013

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All photos by the amazing Xanthe Berkeley

Our first wedding anniversary found us on the beaches of Thailand, bikini clad and sun-kissed and cocktail in hand. This year, we opted for the comforts of home. This year we are lying low in our bathrobes, drinking wine, ordering pizza and watching The Great Gatsby.

Our second year of marriage was quite a ride. We biked from London to Brighton, hiked the three highest peaks in the UK in less than 24 hours and went to the top of the Shard. We sold Joe’s flat, packed everything up, moved in with his brother and bought a derelict house. We attended three weddings, camped by the river Wye, had our first Canadian Thanksgiving in London, went to Winter Wonderland and a murder mystery dinner and a tea party at Fortnum & Mason’s. We decorated our first Christmas tree together, went skating and sledding, saw Andy Murray play at the Queen’s Tennis Club, caught 5 gigs, 4 plays, 3 circus performances, 2 festivals and one comedy show, won a 12-pack of beer at a pub quiz and ate way too much bacon.

In between, there were many walks in the countryside and a thousand cups of coffee and Sunday roasts and dinners amongst friends and weekend getaways and culture club events. I was introduced to British classics such as Withnail and I and pheasant shoots and mince-pies and Christmas pudding. And Joe discovered that his wife can’t help belting out the lyrics to Don’t Stop Believin’ whenever it comes on the radio (which isn’t often enough, in her opinion, and which is also the reason he bought her the Journey album in vinyl for their anniversary). Joe still makes fun of my accent and I still refuse to say “trousers”, so some things haven’t changed.

We learned that social extroverts and creative introverts aren’t necessarily the perfect match for marital bliss and that marriage isn’t always a walk in the park– it’s more of a work in progress. It’s always evolving. It’s ebbing and flowing. It’s about compromising and accepting and learning how to choose your battles and when to let go. It’s about being vulnerable and hoping that your spouse will be gentle with your heart. It’s about recognising that they won’t always be gentle with your heart but trusting they’ll do their best, as will you. It’s about accepting apologies and giving hugs when hugs are needed. It’s about unconditional love. You don’t have to love every bit of your partner. You just have to love them, as a whole, regardless of those bits that drive you crazy. And thank God for laughter through it all.

Armed with everything we’ve learned this past year, about ourselves and each other, we are looking forward to year three.  We’ve poured a solid foundation for our marriage over the past couple years and we’re now ready to start on the framework.

Happy anniversary, dear husband. You really are the sweetest thing.

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7 Comments leave one →
  1. December 29, 2013 3:36 am

    Happy, happy Anniversary to the two of you! And, all you said up there…it is the truth. Sending you LOVE and continued wedded bliss. xoxo

  2. Alison permalink
    December 29, 2013 3:23 pm

    I like the part about how you don’t have to love every bit of your partner. Well thought out. And I love all the giggly photos. And that brick wall is amazing. Don’t you just love brick walls? Are you guys actually jumping off the wall in that first photo? Have fun with the framework. xxxooo

  3. December 29, 2013 5:21 pm

    All these photos are stunning! (Love your knitted sweater/dress). And I think this is a great synopsis of the ups and downs (and up again) of married life. Doing the best we can with a good dose of love and laughter will see you through it all. Enjoy building the framework, not just in your relationship but that amazing house, too. xo

  4. January 1, 2014 4:37 am

    Could the two of you be any more adorable? You both are gorgeous … the light and love that shines in your relationship is awesome.

  5. January 2, 2014 7:01 pm

    You two inspire me greatly. Happy 2014, happy house-fixing and happy year 3 of marriage! ❤

  6. January 12, 2014 6:33 pm

    Congratulations! And what a coincidence, I work just across your new old house! Exciting times ahead, good luck!

  7. January 14, 2014 6:45 pm

    i love it. must forward to my own anniversary partner as he always enjoys your words as well. best wishes for more ‘growing up beside each other’ (tell me you’ve heard that paolo song??)

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