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patience is the word. the word is patience.

January 11, 2012

Thank you all so much for your heartfelt wedding wishes in my last post. When I started this blog 3 years ago, never in a million years would I have imagined such a story for myself, let alone this chapter. I feel truly blessed and I can’t thank you enough for always whooping it up with me  on the highs and sending words of wisdom when I was feeling pants. I am forever grateful.

As stories go… I was a bit sad to bid adieu to 2011 (not gonna lie to you, it was pretty freaking awesome) but 2012 is so full of promise and possibility and I’m like a kid on Christmas morning… I simply can’t wait to see what it has in store for everyone. As has been my custom for the past few years, I like to start a new year with a word/an intention to help guide me through the next 365 days.

Up until a week ago, I hadn’t a clue what that word was, but then I watched the movie Like Crazy and in it is a scene where this guy gives his girlfriend a bracelet with the word patience inscribed, just before she leaves to go back to England for the summer (story of my life). Patience for the months apart. Patience for the distance. Patience for matters of the heart. Patience with the struggle.

I think I may need to get myself one of those bracelets this year, because let’s face it, patience is not a Caron forte. In fact, if you were to name a single characteristic common to most members of the Caron clan, it would be impatience. With others and with ourselves. Don’t get me wrong, we’re a fun-loving bunch and if I were to put a positive spin on it, I would argue that passion is the root of our impatience. Or perhaps there is something wild coursing through our native american blood that makes us this way? I cannot say. But impatient little fire crackers we are. And our fuse is short.

I’ve always wanted to master the art of patience as I can hardly see how its counterpart has ever benefited me. I’ve witnessed patience in others and it is a thing of beauty. Such grace, such calm. And then there’s me. Exhibit A. Stuck behind someone who is walking too slow for my liking. Huff. Puff. Pass. I’ve even been guilty of casting evil death stares as I rush on by, because PEOPLE SHOULD FEEL BAD FOR IMPEDING MY STRIDE!

I’m not proud. And I reckon I must surely lose 10 minutes of my life every time I get aggravated about such petty things. I need to find my zen, people, that’s what I need to do. I need to chill the F out. And I’m certainly not going to find it by swearing at my computer when it doesn’t boot up fast enough.

I now am at a point in my life where I want to come at things with a calm, clear head. I want to breathe through the little annoyances in any given day. If I can at least manage that, I’ll be far better equipped to deal with the hard stuff. And I’ll probably live a longer, healthier life for it.

This year, I need patience more than ever. Because (and perhaps you are like this too), the closer I get to anything, the more impatient I get. I need patience while I wait for this visa to be processed.  And I’ll also need patience when I am on the other side. Patience with the transition and with myself.

Patience breeds calm, calm breeds clarity, clarity breeds confidence! I like the ring of that.

So there you have it. My word for 2012. Last year was the year of trust and though I still have work to do in that department, I’ve come a long way. I’m hoping that by this time next year, I’ll have a yellow belt in patience.

What is your intention for 2012?

Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength.” – Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

13 Comments leave one →
  1. January 11, 2012 7:33 am

    Excellent post. I am right there with you on the impatience and aggravation when I’m in a hurry and people get in my way. It’s silly, but I think you’re right, it’s not healthy. I’m working on being more patient, too. 🙂

  2. Kathryn Guerriero permalink
    January 11, 2012 8:10 am

    as per the usual, you inspire me to be a better me and after seeing how your words seem to make happen in your year i thought i’d pick a word too…
    it was difficult for me! looking in that dusty old skeleton closet nothing was jumping up and saying look at me, fix me i pretty much had to drag ’em out and hope i picked the one that wanted to run away the most ha!
    self-love, it’s gonna be a doosie
    $5 for you GI, me love you long time 😉

  3. January 11, 2012 11:24 am

    Congratulations to you! I think I cried a little when I read the last post…so happy for the two of you and that fact that you got to this place and went for it. (not so happy for the distance that persists) SO get the lack of patience. My Mom and I are like that too and you are right, we are shaving valuable time off our lives by being so full of huffiness over things that at the end of the day simply don’t matter. It is a constant battle to *try* to live with that calm and grace and simply pick our battles. The boy has been instrumental in teaching me that lesson as his little eight year old self constantly challenges said patience.

    I so hope the Visa comes through very quickly so that you can begin the next beautiful chapter of your life with your new husband. In the meantime, I hope that life is full and wonderful. xo

  4. January 11, 2012 8:40 pm

    Trust got you a really long way last year, judging by recent events! think you’ve come farther in that than you realize, and I can tell that even just as a mere reader of your blog 🙂 My word this year is “move”… I’ve been standing still for far too long.

  5. January 11, 2012 11:53 pm

    I’m still looking for my word for 2012, and thanks for the inspiration. Patience is certainly sorely needed in me too!

  6. January 12, 2012 3:03 am

    hello there. i’m a dedicated blog follower that has just decided to pack up my life and head across the pond for adventure as well. it’s a half concocted plan with no direction really, but i thought i’d just voice my dream aloud to someone who did it. any advice?

  7. Silvia Giovannoni permalink
    January 12, 2012 12:19 pm

    Hi Jeanine! Silvia here (yet another foreigner hooked by the lures of this Small Island). Juliana showed me your blog so I stopped by initially to say CONGRATS on the wedding! Looking forward to having a toast with you once you become my Stokey neighbour again. Then I read this post and couldn’t help but leave a comment. I know impatience only too well. Whenever she’s around – apparently I transform into a different being. Matt calls her “Airport Sils” – I think you get the picture. Patience is a big word in my life so I wish you luck in finding more of it in 2012.
    I also love the intention word idea. I work with a youth programme and we always begin with a creative process whereby the young people draw or write their intentions on a piece of paper and we create an intention tree for the week. I believe it makes a huge difference to the programme and I’ve tried to apply it to my own life as well. So here goes mine: Purpose! I could go on and on as to why, but in a nutshell living a purposeful life to me is about being authentic and connected with who you are and I have a hunch it’ll be an important skill to master as we live in ever more complex times!
    Look us up when you come back to London! x

  8. January 12, 2012 9:28 pm

    Oh gosh, I laughed out loud at “not going to find it by swearing at my computer when it doesn’t boot up fast enough”. That is me. Every day.
    But then I got a bit excited, when you said that you get more impatient the closer you are to something. Do you think that even if there is no physical evidence that you are getting closer, becoming more and more impatient is the universe telling you that you are? God, I hope so 🙂
    Here’s to a fab 2012!

  9. Libby permalink
    January 13, 2012 1:47 pm

    Amen sista! Now go buy your self that bracelet. Gawd knows that a little jewellery goes a long way and Etsy always helps Time pass more happily. :0

  10. January 13, 2012 11:08 pm

    I love your word, it is, once again, perfect for you. I am still so excited and happy for you… Oh, Happy, Happy day!

  11. January 15, 2012 11:32 pm

    Patience….beautiful word.
    Congratulations, my dear! Many Blessings on your new marriage!! Such a beautiful, beautiful story you are sharing with us…
    As for my intention for the year…..I am going to wait and remain open. xoxo

  12. January 21, 2012 2:24 pm

    Oh, wow! You did it. You got married! I’ve been absent so missed the good news. Congratulations. 🙂 Be happy forever.

  13. Mindy permalink
    January 21, 2012 10:31 pm

    Congratulations! You looked stunning. Love the snow boots with the dress and that head piece was fabulous!

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